Something I wrote last week. Enjoy
How much stuff in our lives do we try to change? Everything that’s for sure. Maybe what I’m asking is how much stuff that we try to change do we really have that much control over? Of course you can change those concrete things like you job, how you dress, who you talk to, but what about those things that really are out of your control? I mean we can’t change people, but yet we get in relationships trying to change the other person. Can we really change how people perceive us? Regardless of what concrete things we change if people want to put you in a certain light they will regardless. My point is this, people will be people. They will act as such. This means they will do and say what they want regardless of your influence. So why do we continue to try and mold people into a figure that we want them to be? When will we be content with taking people for who they are and respecting their individuality. We do hold the ability to influence and encourage others to become better, but that better we are trying to help them achieve has to be a better that they are content with. We try so hard to embedden our will onto situations that we have become so arrogant to think we can embedden our will onto people. Don’t try so hard to influence people’s decisions, allow them to make their own an support them in their choices if you really care. Just have the courage to tell them they are wrong when they really are.
